Article reposted with permission from author and Get Hired Now! Programs contributor Eric Lemieux.

It’s been six years since my life changed forever with the birth of my daughter. Minus the sleepless nights, dirty diapers and spit-up, my wife and I truthfully had no idea what we were getting into. And with my wife staying home and leaving a healthy second income on the table, the thought of juggling fatherhood, a career and fulfilling my future professional goals seemed overwhelming.

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My wife, by no surprise, turned out to be an absolute rock star of a mother. She not only did anything and everything for our baby girl, but she single-handedly ran our household while I was working 10+ hour days in the office and a few more after my daughter went to bed. 

We were blessed once again almost 9 months ago when we had another daughter. We were literally over the moon. The problem was that I knew my time at my current job was coming to an end. 

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To me, this was the definition of turmoil: I was the breadwinner in a house of two kids, one a newborn, and a wife. Minus a few consulting gigs and some volunteer work, I’ve been home a lot more than usual. I feel myself unintentionally getting in the way and stepping on the toes of my wife’s current and successful routine of running our household.

 Unemployment can leave an individual, and a family, feeling overwhelmed, powerless, frightened, and even crushed. The likelihood of finding a job right away can be slim. That’s why you need to accept support and even criticism, throughout the process.

Searching for the positives during this crisis can be hard to swallow, but it’s really a time when you can try and strengthen a marriage or bond with your children. While there is still the underlying stress of finding work, especially now, I’m trying to look at the bright side of things, like spending this time with my family.

Here are a few ways to make the most of your time and stay focused on doing what you need to find your next gig: 

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Acceptance. Accept that things are the way they are for a reason and know that this is a temporary setback. This is the first and most important step. Take advantage of your time at home to be more of a help than a burden. I learned rather quickly that the little things go a long way. Dropping my daughter off at school every morning, picking up a few household chores that we’ve “been meaning” to get to, and cooking every night.

Losing a job is easier to accept if you can find the lesson in your loss. What can you take away from the experience?

Open up. Don’t underestimate the importance of other people when you’re faced with the stress of job loss or unemployment. Now is the time to lean on the people who care about you most. Open up to family, friends and other trusted sources. The person you talk to doesn’t have to necessarily provide your solution, they just need to be a good listener.

Keep family in the loop about your job search and tell them how they can best support you. Most important, listen to their concerns and work together to find solutions. And on the flip side, its ok to let people know when you’d rather not talk about it.

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Keep a routine. Just because you’re unemployed, doesn’t mean you should sleep until noon and spend the day in sweats. Continue on the path of getting up early, taking a shower, getting dressed, and working as you would if you had a 9-5 job.

Get out of the house. Being around the house every day is a drastic change for your loved ones. Find a coffee shop or diner with free Wi-Fi, plug in and focus on the job at hand. There are also plenty of places in your own area that you can donate your time to and help those less fortunate. Make a difference and feel good about helping others.

Make time. Finding a job is a full time job, but being at home gives you a chance to build memories with your loved ones. Spend quality time with those important to you, individually and as a family. And put the phone down; give them 100% of the attention.

Even though it might feel like the worst time in your life, it doesn’t have to be. You WILL get another job, it just might take more time than you want or realize. In the interim, take advantage of the time you have at home and try and find the little silver linings in each and every day.

Best of luck to you in 2019.

Eric Lemieux, Marketing Executive

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Article reposted with permission from author and Get Hired Now! Programs contributor Eric Lemieux.

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